Many birth parents worry about what happens if their adoptions do not go as planned. In life, so many of us worry about the “what ifs”. We have worries and fears regardless of whether we are making an adoption plan, pregnant, considering adoption for pregnant mothers, embarking on a new life journey, making a change in life, or perhaps just struggling with fear and anxiety. Wherever you are in life, or on your adoption journey, you are not alone. Human beings wrestle with the fear of the unknown, of not being in control one hundred percent, and the fear of where life may take you.
You Are in Control When Creating Your Adoption Plan
The good news is that with your adoption plan, you are in control as much as anyone can be. You make the decisions about your baby – choosing the adoptive family, and determining the course your adoption journey will take. There are aspects of adoption that will be out of your control, but going into adoption, try to understand that some of these aspects would be the same if you were pregnant and planning on parenting.
For example, some worries and fears that birth parents have related to their adoption plan are:
- What if the adoptive family does not like me when we meet in person?
- What if I do not like the adoptive family I chose when I meet them in person?
- What if I deliver prematurely, and my baby must stay in the hospital for longer than normal?
- What if the adoptive family is only nice to me because they want to adopt my baby?
- What if my baby is not cute and the adoptive family changes their mind about adopting my baby?
- What if my baby has a medical problem, and the adoptive family changes their minds about adopting my baby?
- What if I really struggle to let my baby go?
These fears and concerns are entirely normal thoughts and worries birth parents have, so know that you are not alone. The good news is that we have remedies for all these fears, which is one reason why choosing to work with a licensed adoption agency is so important. You have a designated caseworker who walks through possible scenarios that might occur during adoption for pregnant mothers, Additionally, you have an adoption counselor who can help you process concerns and assist you in formulating an adoption plan.
Going back to the common concerns at the beginning of this blog, here are some resolutions to help put your mind at ease:
- The adoptive family already likes you, especially because not only did you choose them, but you are blessing them with an amazing gift.
- If you do not like the adoptive family you chose when you meet them in person, talk to your case manager. Try to remember that people act differently when they are nervous, and many adoptive families have the same fears about you not liking them. So, spending time with them may change your feelings. Talk to your adoption case manager about what you don’t like about them and see if it’s remediable and find out your other options.
- If you deliver prematurely and your baby must stay in the hospital for longer than normal, then the adoptive family will be there to support you and your baby.
- Most likely, the adoptive family is nice to you because they think the world of you, and you are blessing them with a child. Yes, they want to adopt your baby, but they want to show you all the respect, kindness, and love you deserve.
- All newborns are pretty in their own way, and I have never seen or heard of an adoptive family walking away from adopting a baby because the baby was not cute. Remember that “beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” After being scrunched up in a womb for nine months and going through labor and delivery, sometimes it takes a few days for a newborn to look a little “prettier.”
- If your baby has a medical problem, the adoptive family will proceed with the adoption most of the time. If they choose not to, we have another adoptive family that would love to adopt your baby.
- It is very normal to have a hard time letting your baby go with the adoptive family. Our case managers and adoption counselor will help you process your emotions. Additionally, we have our adoption aftercare program to help you after you deliver and place the baby for adoption. We provide the care and support you need after adoption for pregnant mothers.
Adoption for Pregnant Mothers Comes With Support, Care, and Love
Choosing adoption means choosing a courageous option with support, aftercare, and access to financial resources. Adoption for pregnant mothers is a beautiful choice and one that is increasingly becoming a more popular choice. If you are pregnant and are considering adoption, we are a licensed, full-service, non-profit Arizona adoption agency, visit our website HERE. AZ Pregnancy Help believes in adoption aftercare services and have a program on-site to provide continued support through the Donna K. Evans Foundation. You can contact us 24/7 at (623) 695-4112. You are not alone, and we want to help. Thank you for considering adoption for pregnant mothers, you are making an amazing choice! Call or Text: (623) 695-4112.